Why it's ok to break up. (Don't worry, we didn't)

The other night I had a dream. In it, I was dating a guy that I had dated when I was 18. I sat there thinking, "what the heck? why are we back together? That is the last thing in this world that I would want!" When I woke up, I looked over at my husband fast asleep and thought, "Oh thank goodness!"

And that sparked yet another reminder of how grateful I am for all of the breakups I've had with different boys over the years. That boy in the dream? Totally played me. Sadly, he was one that I was really upset about after we broke up. There are other boys that I was more upset about, others that it really didn't bother me, and a few where I mostly just thought, "oh boy, what was I ever thinking?" Some were very quickly forgotten and others took quite a long time to really get over.

Now I'm not saying that I am a superstar dater, but I have definitely had my fair share of dating experience. That doesn't mean I'm cool, it just means I have a lot of experience with things not working out. Some things I've learned through relationships are:

1) I'd rather be with someone that pays attention to me than someone who works so much they could go days without remembering to call me.

2) Any boy that tries to kiss your roommate/friend while still trying to date you is never worth giving a second chance. Trust me, it is never worth it.

3) Sometimes, it really is your own fault that things aren't working out. Either grow up where you need to, or do both of you a favor and end the relationship. There's no sense in dragging things out.
4) Spend time together doing other things besides kissing and cuddling. That will generally ruin the relationship. There's probably a ton of great reasons for you to be together, but if it's just focused on the kissin' then you'll miss out on all of the really great stuff. And it's usually too hard to go backwards in the relationship.
5)Make sure you have fun together. There's good guys, and then there's good guys that you have a hilarious time together. I vote for the second type:)

 There are a lot more lessons I have learned than these five. I'm betting that God had me learn all my lessons through dating because He's going to send me a ton of boy-crazed daughters. Yikes.Whether or not the breakup was my doing or theirs, I am grateful that those relationships ended. I don't remember who said it, but I love the quote, "The wrong one is the right one to lead you to the best one." Mostly, I'm grateful because I get to wake up next to this guy every day and think, 
"Oh thank goodness!"

Busy Life!

It has been a busy past couple of months! I've been working like crazy at the MTC, the whole schedule changed and I had to update a whoooooole lot of information. I'm not the typical girl of my technologically advanced generation...so having to update a bunch of stuff on different computer programs was quite an ordeal for me. But I am pretty impressed with how much I am learning about computers in general. There was one point when I proudly went out to the lobby and announced to the volunteers and employees that I had just given someone correct answers over the phone to fix their computer problem. It's the little things.... ;)

Ry and I moved out of the house were living in. It was a cutie little house with too many issues. It was a little sad because of the nostalgia factor, but from the second we moved into our new place we have loooved it a ton! It is really nice to live somewhere not being worried about if there will be hot water when you wake up at 5a.m., or if you'll be able to hear every word of the people's conversations that live upstairs, or if there will be ants, or more leaks, or a ton of other random stuff. The air conditioning is a huge plus too! I don't know why anybody in Utah would build a house without some type of cooling system! Anyways, we're loving our new place and our new neighbors (my friend Nicole who served in my mission is right next door)! 

 Goodbye old house! We realized the day we left that we had never taken a picture in front of it!

We also went to Missouri at the end of March. Ry's Uncle Wayne passed away after fighting cancer for around 10 years. I only got to meet him once before, but he was very kind to me and I could tell how much he loved his family. It was neat to hear so many stories about him, and I've never seen so many people come to a viewing; he was a very respected and loved man. Even though it was for a sad reason, we love getting out to Missouri to visit Ry's family. They are such great people! They make you feel so welcome and comfortable right away. And it's always fun to hear stories about Ry being a hell-raiser as a kid :)

This was the view from Aunt Tracy's porch. We sat on that porch for a majority of an entire day. It was awesome.

In April we went to Arizona to see my family. It was so great being home. I was so busy playing that I didn't snap that many pictures, but I did get some choice ones of this little girl picking her nose!

I still haven't learned how to rotate pictures on this thing.

Also got so see my grandma. She is awesome!

And one last awesome picture.....

 

"remember that gator that got your hand? well, I got his head!"

I love my husband!